The Aspects of Parenting in Silas Marner “Love and Respect are the most important aspects of parenting and of all relationships. ” Jodie Foster says. There are no constraints to love In the book of Silas Marner by George Eliot this is very true, all children need love and respect from their parents because all children have a privation of wanting to be loved. In the novel, Silas is a man who is living the life when his best friend William Pane accuses him of stealing from the church and Silas’s life is turned upside down.
He moves to a village called Ravenloe and becomes a hermit and the desolation of his life now makes him anti-social towards the others living in Raveloe. For living he is a weaver and makes money out of doing so, he cherishes and loves his money but one day it was stolen by Dunsey Cass. Silas went into depression because of his loss until a child showed up at his doorstep. He kept this child and it became his new pride and joy as he raised her as if she is his own child. His daughter Eppie gets married and they all live happily. In the story, Silas Marner it shows that the importance of parenting is love and affection.
Through out the novel Silas shows love towards Eppie, he acquiescenced to adopting and raising her. The baby was Godfrey and Molly’s daughter, Molly was going to get revenge on Godfrey walking through a snow storm but died in the snow from drugs and alcohol and then froze to death. Eppie was in Molly’s arms when she fell into the snow and she went to Silas’s village in front of the hearth. Silas found Eppie at his cottage and his first thought was his money had been returned but really it was a baby girl (Eliot, 93). When he went to Squirre Cass about the child he had found, he insisted upon keeping it.
He decided to raise her himself. Silas adopting Eppie was a really big commitment to make, but he knew he had already loved Eppie, the moment he saw her. “… Eppie called him away from his weaving, and made him think all his pauses a holiday, re-awakening his senses with her fresh life, even to the old winter-flies that came crawling forth in the early spring sunshine, and warming him into joy because she had joy” (Eliot, 106). Eppie made Silas happy just because she was happy because he loved her so much, as if she was his own child.
He was always shutting himself out from the rest of the world, and with Eppie she helps him find love and hope into his life, she mitigated his life of sadness just with her appearance. Without Eppie he would still be depressed because Dunsey stole his only love in life, which was his money until Eppie came along. The complacency of now having someone to love is the best gift Silas got replacing his money. He cares for her a lot, and is always trying to be the best parent, just loving her makes Eppie happy, and him.
Dolly has a very singular personality she acts as a mother towards Silas with her show of affection. When Silas first decides to keep Eppie, Dolly is right by his side helping Silas to take care of her. Pleading and convincing, she convinces him to go to church to get Eppie christened (Eliot, 102). It was contingent for him not to go because he was unwonted with the church since he had not been in a while but he wanted to do what was best for Eppie. She also taught Silas different ways to take care of her since she was his first child.
Dolly also has her own child, Aaron and takes a lot of care of him too. She is definitely an amazing mother even to Silas who is not her son, she acts like a loving mother who really cares. The father of Godfrey and Dunsey, Squirre Cass who is the closest thing Raveloe has to a mayor did not teach his kids well. Stealing and Killing Dunsey was obviously not taught the right and wrong things to do. Dunsey was culpable of stealing Silas’s money, black mailing Godfrey, killing Godfrey’s horse, and ending up falling in a hole and dying (Eliot, 58).
He had absolutely no forbearance by the way he acted that day. Godfrey also not the best example of being respectful wants to be with Nancy when he already has a wife and denies his own daughter (Eliot, 96). If Squirre Cass was a good parent who raised his kids to be respectful and honest they would not be getting themselves into so much trouble. He lacked love towards his children and did not give them enough attention or the care they needed to learn what was right and wrong. Godfrey and Molly are both selfish, and lack many parenting skills.
Molly brings her daughter into the freezing cold through a snow storm just so she can get revenge on Godfrey at his party. She falls in the snow and dies (Eliot, 91). She put the child at great risk and did not seem to have any solicitude for the child, but after the child fell into the snow she wandered off and managed to make her way into Silas’s cottage and luckily Silas finds her and keeps her. If he had not she could have died, Molly put her own daughter at risk of death. If she truly loved and cared for her daughter she was have done what was best. This shows how uncaring she is owards her love for Eppie, her own daughter. Godfrey is just as guilty as being a bad parent as Molly. He does not utilize love in his parenting because when Silas finds Godfrey’s daughter he does not want to keep her and is relieved that Molly is dead because he ingenuously wants to marry Nancy. He does donate money towards Silas to raise Eppie and was a great help for them to buy essential needs for living, but that does not equal what he did to his own daughter (Eliot, 97). Towards the end of the story Godfrey asks Eppie to come live with him for a better life, but Eppie denies him and wants to stay and live with Silas.
Even though Godfrey is propitiatory towards his daughter not wanting to live with him, he does deserves it for not wanting anything to do with her in the first place (Eliot, 140). In conclusion, throughout the novel Silas Marner, the aspects of parenting are love and care. The parents in the story both show or show lack of love and affection. A cogent way to be closer to the heart of a child is by loving them and making them happy. Work Cited Eliot, George. Silas Marner. Mineola: Dover Publications, 1996.